This girl I went out with 2 times, and it was going to be three times but I cancelled because of layoff talk at my job, sent me this email 2 days ago and I don't understand it at all.


"I wanted to let you know that I started dating this guy and he's not my boyfriend but we are dating. Let me know what you think about that."




Can anyone tell me what the hell she is talking about?

Seems like the young lady felt as though she was dumped by you, because of you canceling, and she felt the need to let you know that she was still desirable by other men.

Girlfriend wants to date more than one guy and is asking if your cool with that.

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agreed.

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Do you like her?

Have you responded to that e-mail she sent 2 days ago yet?

If not, ask her out. Like call her NOW and see what she's doing tonight..... She probably has plans with the other guy. Because he asked her and you didn't. Even though she would have rather gone out with you... Invite her over to watch cartoons if cash is a bit tight. Something.. Because this sleezebag who's half the man you are is currently the only one paying her any attention.

No not yet because I have a history of saying stupid things to a woman due to being a late bloomer so I wanted to ask what she was talking about so I will know how to respond the right way.

You're playing it really cool and nonchalant and she doesn't know what your intentions are and so she's dating other people. But, she's obviously still interested if she bothered to tell you she's seeing someone else too.

If you want to make her your girlfriend, you're going to have to step it up.

Maybe this other guy cooks for her. And appreciates her flip flops.

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She was probably upset that you cancelled out on her. I'm betting that she and her girl friends have been talking for hours on their cell phones about your cancellation, trying to see if there was an ulterior motive and all. If you ever wonder why women spend so much time on the phone - this is a huge reason. Anyway, they hatched this plan for her to send you this e-mail to both: (A) let you know that she is desirable and that you ought to step it up; and (B) find out how serious you are. I'm betting that there is no other guy.

If you're into her, tell her that you understand but that you prefer to be more exclusive; then invite her out. That should take care of (A) and (B). Don't bother wondering whether she might just go back to her girl friends and say "Wow, so he is serious. What should I do now? Should I cancel out on him and say I'm out with this other guy in the hopes of getting him to step it up some more." I've given up on trying to predict female behavior. The bottom line is that it's UNPREDICTABLE. Why? Because their actions often are the result of the consensus of mutliple suggestions given by all their girl friends over the course of multiple phone calls. Thus, how they act depends on who and how many people have weighed in.

Just so what you want to do. Don't get bogged down into thinking what she is doing or how she might react to what you're doing. Chances are, she doesn't know either and is being driven by the mutiple suggestions of her friends. The best thing is to just act instinctively based on what you want. Easier said than done, I know...

yeah these kinds of emails are NEW to me because it's been so long since I made it past the first date so I was defintely surprised to see this kind of email from her. This is why I hate dating because like you said-"UNPREDICTABLE BEHAVIOR"