Oh, in High Fidelity? That does change things.

I'd have boiled the water first.

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No, not High Fidelity. Not sure about Arlee, but I would have fallen for High Fidelity Cusack instantly.

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Ouch.

I had an ex that Say Anything was her favorite movie and she always said I reminded her of Lloyd. I am starting to be concerned now ...

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Ok, but you still haven't told us what exactly you said to her when you cancelled your date. Was it a short-notice cancel? And what were your date plans for the day/evening in question? Was it going to cost you a lot of $$?
I'm not sure what your mental state was after hearing of a possible lay off at work..I'm sure I'd be unpleasant to be around too.
But if your reason had anything to do with $$, I would have just said, "I was planning to take you to dinner (or whatever), but I'm a little short on cash this week unexpectedly."

At this point, she might have chimed up and said, "Oh, don't worry about that. I have cash. My treat."

I've done this before. No big deal. It's all about the company, IMO.

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Keep in mind, if that was her favorite movie and you were dating her, then that was a good thing. Based on what I know of you so far, you are not a Lloyd. You're more normal and way less whiny.

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I found him to be an insufferable and whiny little toad.

And this is coming from a total music snob, which meant that I suppose I should have loved it and had Top Five everything lists.

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Yes, it's the music thing. That trumps alot of things for me, including whiny-ness. I guess you could always just punch him.

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Well we talked on the phone tonight and she basically told me that she lost interest in me because

I never asked her out on the weekends, ONLY AFTER WORK IN CENTER CITY.

I was not agressive enough for her because she stated when she likes a guy she wants to see him 2-3 times a week and I was letting too many days go past without trying to see her



So I guess I can learn from this and know to be more active in trying to see a girl if I like her in the future. I do appreciate her letting me know this because I now know WHAT NOT TO DO in the future.


Most girls don't say anything and just stop taking your calls.

Sorry to hear that.

I personally think it is kind of odd that she would complain about you not showing enough interest after only 2 dates simply because you took her out only on the weekdays rather than the weekends. My guess is that she was upset about the cancellation without an offer of a reschedule and she and her female friends probably got together and talked it over and they collectively concluded that you lacked interest.

My guess is also that she still was interested in you after the cancellation and sent that e-mail out to you as a "test" (one that was also devised by the girl friend committee). When you failed to respond after a few days, they probably collectively concluded that you either really lacked interest or, if you had interest, found it difficult to show it.

Well it's all water under the bridge. If you don't mind my saying so, she sounded kind of demanding anyway and you're better off being with someone who isn't so apparently beholden to the advise of her girl friend committee.

I wouldn't beat myself up conducting too much of a post-mortem on this. You can analyze what went right and what went wrong on this to death and it STILL won't prepare you for your next girl. Like I said, female reactions are very unpredictable since, not to stereotype, but many females prefer analyzing every step a guy makes, bouncing it amongst their friends, and having them all come up with a collective analysis and recommendation on how to react. I say leave the analysis to them. Just do what you want to do. If you're interested in someone, don't be afraid to show it. The next time some girl sends you an e-mail asking a weird question, just answer it the way you feel like answering it. In fact, women often take to a guy who just says and does what he wants to since it often provides a sharp contrast to the "girl friend committee" which they are used to.

If there is a take home message from all of this, it is simply to never cancel out on someone you're interested in unless you provide a firm offer for a reschedule. Everytime a girl's cancelled out on me, I've taken it as a rejection. As you know, girls tend not to like being direct when they reject a guy so they typically either come up with a blow-off excuse or, if they can't come up with one on the fly, they accept the offer of a date and then cancel out later. As a result, when a guy cancels out with a firm offer for a reschedule, their immediate assumption is that he is also rejecting them.

Yeah it's defintely water under the bridge. I still feel good that I have this dating thing figured out and feel confident I will have success before the fall. I can tell she is not a Born and raised Philly Girl because they would never tell you what you did wrong. Wonder if there re any other Kansas City girls living in Philly Right Now?-lol