...for White dudes?? Listen to this vlog :

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0pDz7w1yRho

Below is an e-mail the orginal, who goes by the name

"Sergeant Will Pete" received. (It's on the page in the link above):



Switching it Up for the White Guy Switching it Up for the White Guy
Hey SWP,

LOL I was thinking about what you were saying in your video... You are absolutely right. I've only dated and had relationships with white men. I don't have a comparison to actually answer your question. But I know that I definitely act more feminine when I am around my white boyfriend or dating a white guy (in comparison to being around friends and family.)

One time...my last boyfriend took me to a specialty bakery. We were picking out cupcakes. He made his selection and I told the cashier which one I wanted. He abruptly said "No," because it was the same one he had. Then he told me which one I should pick. The white cashier had this indiscernible look on her face. She ignored him, turned to me, and asked me what I wanted. I told her I wanted the one he picked out. Then the cashier rang up the total and I PAID for the cupcakes. The other white girl working next to her paused for a second and exchanged looks with the cashier. After we left the bakery he leaned in and whispered "they think I'm an *******." And I was all too quick to say, "of course not sweety!"

I'm going to be honest. If I was dating a black guy and he did that- I would not have tolerated it. I would have looked at him like he was crazy.

I really can't explain all the reasons why I allowed him to treat me like that. I remember not wanting to be the "typical" black girl. I wanted to be the polar opposite. Instead of being obnoxious and bossy, I wanted to be sweet and submissive. When people saw us together- I didn't want them to think "Why is he with that black girl? He could have a prettier white girl instead." I made sure that I always looked like I walked off the cover of a magazine.

My mom put all the guys I dated on a pedestal. "She's got a white man!" she would proudly declare to the rest of the family. My grandmother told my mom to make sure that I didn't marry a black guy because I "could do better." When my cousin was about 4 years old she told me that she would never marry a black man because she didn't want a baby with "bushy hair." I always felt as though my family thought snagging a white man was somehow superior to getting a black guy. Perhaps there are other black women who feel that way. Maybe that's why they are willing to "switch it up" for a white guy and say "**** you" to the black man.

I'm not trying to justify. I'm just trying to explain.



And then listen to this response given by this young Black women:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_b5HhELiLBc


Is there really any truth to this? Has anyone else here ever experienced anything like this?? Help me out Philly?Hopefully the mods won't any problems with my thread this time. No Haters or Race-bangers! Let's just try to keep this thread civil.


Thanks

What exactly is your prime directive here?

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Good question. Nothing malicious, just real convo, opinions and experiences that's all. Check out the vlogs.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0pDz7w1yRho

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_b5HhELiLBc

I'm actually doing a bunch of stuff that is slowing th computer down so I can't watch them right now. I was asking based on what I read in the article you posted. Are you asking if black women find white men attractive (some of us do, some don't)? Are you asking if black women strive to snag a white man (some do, some don't)? I'm just curious, since I couldn't exactly discern the core question.

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You know, the homeless make desperate, passionate lovers. But they will rob you blind.

That's why you gotta listen to the vlogs. The question is "Do Black Women Switch Up For White Men"?? In other words, are doing things for White dudes they that wouldn't do for Black men?? The girl in the below e-mail admitted allowing her white boyfriend do this that she would have "checked" her Black boyfriend for doing. That's raises all types of other questions and I'm just interested in talking on it!

I see. I missed the switch up part. My apologies.

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You know, the homeless make desperate, passionate lovers. But they will rob you blind.

I guess Arlee's initial reply sums it up: Some do, some don't, just like all segments of society in regards to ANY question put forth.

Here's some questions for you: Do you look down on black women who date white men? How about black men who date white women? ...white women who date black men? ... white men who date black women? ...white men who date black men? ...black men who date white men? ...white women who date black women? ...black women who date white women? How about blacks who date other blacks, just of the opposite sex? Maybe whites who date other whites, just of the opposite sex?

I really don't care who dates who. BW who date WM or WW who date BM. The point about someone adopting a certain attitude as the "Sergeant" stated on the You tube clip (which I thought was very funny).

I believe that we all adjust ourselves for who we date, whether he is classy, we may enhance our look, or dress a little "casual" for a man that really doesn't dress classy. I don't think his point is something that needs to be discussed. I do think in a relationship we put our best face forward, no matter what race we date.

If you are dating a White man, be proud, don't care what your mother says or anyone has to say, just be proud and happy of who you are dating. Insecurity shows in this post, especially in the store.

The guy on this video seems to have major issues. To say that a BW will not change for a BM, only for a WM is disturbing. The guy needs some help.

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If a woman gets drunk easy, has low self-esteem, and says yes to me, I really do not care what color she is.

I went to Southern High School. The Black girls were all up in my grill. Dated one of them. Fun times.

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I think most people when they date will try to impress the other person and be on their best behavior. If one person is a jerk why would the other person have to try to impress ? I like to think that you get back what you give in a relationship and perhaps that is what "Sarge" does not understand. I am very good friends with a woman who happens to be black and like to think that we do not have to try to impress each other. Sarge is a bitter jerk and I would pity any woman who would stay with him.

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