I am so with you on that!!! UPDATE YOUR PICS! I've been on and off with dating sites for many years. And it's funny because the last time I was on Yahoo Personals I saw at least a dozen guys who were on maybe 5 yrs ago -- and they had the SAME PIC!! I don't get it.

And let me tell you -- regardless of personality and attraction, dating STINKS. I'm a big girl and I've gone to those fat chick dating sites... men are no better there (not to say that men are bad, just sayin'.. I love men!!). I've been out with men who were totally hot, but didn't stimulate me when it came to conversation. When I was younger, I *was* more concerned with looks, but as I'm getting older, it's more about the quality.

I've tried Eharmony, but halfway thru the application, I said eff it... I could sense how religious the site was going to be.

I've just stopped looking/worrying about being single. If I meet someone, I meet someone -- whatever happens, happens!

Now craigslist, OMG... I've read thru some of those ads. SCARY! (and I know you can meet scary, married, loser & crazy people in person, too)

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Chemisty.com is quite the same way. You take a personality test which is more for job placement than finding a companion, and they claim to match you based on the results. But they don't. They just insert a score & a headline like "negotiator" at the bottom of everyone's profile and it is up to you to go through each and every profile and determine if their score/choices are suitable to you.

A total waster of time. And, since Chemistry.com is owned by Match.com, the same people are on both sites.

As I've gotten older, I'm into quality of life. At my age (early 40s) I am not into "having fun" in the same way as I was when I was 25. I find that many of the men my age are trying to relive their 20s/30s by posting pictures of themselves shirtless and standing next to a sportscar while drinking a can of beer.

Sleazy if ya ask me.

If you are a woman (and I am a woman, not a girl--I haven't been a girl since I was about 14 years old) with standards, then you're flat outta luck with the majority of men posting that kind of stuff.

If you are a woman (and I am a woman, not a girl--I haven't been a girl since I was about 14 years old) with standards, then you're flat outta luck with the majority of men posting that kind of stuff.

Thank you, thank you, thank you! I'm 56, and I keep wondering when we get to be women, and how long it's been since a 30-something man was called a boy.

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"Your silence will not protect you"--Audre Lorde.

If you note, I call women alternatively girls and women in my posts. It has nothing to do with the judgement call that you are immature. Even Phillygal has a blaring "Bad Girl" avatar in her posts and refers to herself as girl.

Girls my age (and I'm almost 30) commonly refer to guys as boys. Boy, man, whatever. No guy is sitting around wondering why he's being called a boy by a girl. This must be a generational thing for you older women. Lighten up people. You know what we meant.

Nah, don't buy into that.

Girls are children.
Women are not children.

Using "girls" to describe women subjugates all women. No sooner would you refer to a black man as a "boy" should you refer to a woman as a "girl."

Why a black man in particular? Are they more of a man than other races? How do you know what I do?

Like I said, lighten up. The word girl subjugates all women? Give me a break.

I see women 25-35 referring to themselves as GIRLS all the time. In their profile on a dating site I see something like "GirlNextDoor" and she was 30

Because it a racial blunder that people make when referring to black men as boys. Did you not ever take a cultural history class, or have any experience with cultural sensitivity?

Black men--"boys"
"jew it down"--reduce the price
"he gyped me"--ripped me off
"girls"--when you mean women
and so on....

You'll also see 98 year old women referring to themselves as girls too.

So what is your argument--that women are allowed to call each other girls or themselves girls but I'm not? Are women a culture that I have to be sensitive to? Oh you mean POLITICAL CORRECTNESS. Sorry, I am from a low income, mostly minority neighborhood and I don't buy into any of this politcal correctness nonsense. This is possibly the most ridiculous conversation I've ever had on the Internet.



Since you mentioned it, I have never heard jew it down. We spell it jipped, perhaps incorrectly, and it's just a word considering most Americans have probably never had any experience with gypsies. I do think you are jipping this thread of its original intention.