This is my point. It is one thing to ask someone within 5 min of meeting them "so...what do you do" and an other to bring it up organically in a conversation. But even then if, after an house or so of talking, the person I'm taking to hasn't brought it up I'm going to assume he or she doesn't want it known and leave it alone until they bring it up.

I just don't see it as my business. To the people asking "well what do you talk about then" I admit I manage somehow. I'm a fairly chatty person. I just got lemon grass to take root (from a store bought stalk) so I'm pretty excited about that and no doubt it comes up in my conversations. I'm also looking for a myer lemon tree ...

Oh no. They're very sweet -- intense, but sweet. I think it's very nice that the biggest conflict we have with them is that we don't see them enough. Not that they hate the sight of the gori girl.

i think most indian parents are fine/happy with the sight of a gori girl/guy after a while...they just want their son/daughter to be happy. my parents have long known i might end up marrying a gori gal, and they're ok with it though they now pester me by saying "see, they're just not so much into you...let us find you a 'good' indian girl" and i go... and change the topic! hehe in my last serious relationship (with a PA girl), i brought her home to meet the parents after a few months and when i thought we were getting serious, and the meeting went pretty well, actually. no awkward questions from my parents. now when i went to see her parents...that's another matter altogether. they're one of those Baptist nuts...her dad right off the bat started telling me how he thought i wouldn't be a right match for her daughter because i wasn't christian, let alone a baptist. that went over nicely...

btw, i edited my last post and added more.

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I guess you could say I'm not as jaded about "stuff" such as enduring love yet...

I didn't read this entire thread, so I don't know if anyone has said this yet, but people ask what you do as soon as they meet you because

1.) it is an easy icebreaker
2.) your job defines you
3.) your job tells a lot about you like how much education you have, how smart you are, and what you contribute to society.

Right. And I'm an unemployed drunken neurosurgeon. What does that tell you about me?

That's my point exactly. I don't the question itself is the issue. I think it's only annoying if there's an "agenda" at work other than just getting to know someone.

And as a woman I think it is helpful to remind men out there that it's a little uncool to ask specifically WHERE a woman you've never met before works. I find men don't think twice about doing that. The occupation? Fine. The exact employer -- not cool because there are some stalkers and crazy people out there and with so much business info available on the web, revealing that info could be risky for a woman. I don't think guys get that simply because it doesn't occur to them.

THat with a look at the person's appearance will give you almost total overview of what to expect.

Sucks.

True.

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I am, like many others on this thread, genuinely interested in people's occupations on a happiness factor. I've had a zillion different jobs, and I've had a difficult time deciding what to do when I "grow up". I just like to hear about what people's jobs entail on a day to day basis. I don't care how much they make. I'm also interested in hobbies, music choices, etc.

rpost, it's odd that you are upset that people seemingly judge one another according to occupation as you have judged me for being a hairstylist and chiming in on a thread regarding balancing budgets and family life...because I suppose that hairstylists don't have budgets and families?

Also, your ploy of "insulting" us by calling us by our opposite sex is transparent and juvenile.

Why are you so upset about being questioned about occupation? Were you shot down by some hottie for being a hot-shot bartender at an independently owned bar rather than a CEO? Aren't you going to med school? Just tell the honeys about that...they'll be putty in your paws. I'm sure that you will find some quality ladies.

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Number 1, maybe, it depends on the situation. Numbers 2 and 3 are simply not true at all. I'm a truckdriver. What does that tell you? I was also a member of Delaware Valley Mensa. How much education do I have? Many of my truckdriver friends have degrees. Would you know in what?
If my job defines me to you, you're a little too narrow-minded for me to have much to do with you.
( I used to have a job in Atlantic City, baiting fish hooks. I got so good at it that everyone referred to me as a master baiter.)

So true. When people find out what I do for a living, they say things like "oh, good for you, the world needs more people like you," or "you must be such a patient person." No, that's what I'm paid to do 8 hours a day. Actually I'm an impatient a** most of the time.