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Old 05-23-2008, 10:58 AM
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No arguments here.


The only thing that furrows my brow are professional women or career girls in training (better known as "Villanova girls" locally)... who think sites like eHarmony need to include screening options for potential dates based on a potential mate's financial picture, including credit score.

While I think information as private as that should be disclosed within a relationship before "THE Commitment" and you come to an agreement or part ways over it; it is totally repugnant to insist on this before courting someone.

Of course, these girls come back with "Look, I just know I don't want a guy who is going to be at work all the time and I've got my life and don't want to struggle to pay bills, you know?" That sounds genuine, but I've dated girls like this and know it's a huge load of crap.

What better way to ensure a sad and potentially nasty divorce down the road than to be a superficial golddigging b-eye-tee-cee-ache up front, no?


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I'm one of these women. I *can* cook but I don't like to. I, like many women of my generation, watched our mothers cook every night out of obligation and waited for our fathers to get home to enjoy the meal. Burned dinners, late from work, arguments...My mother hated to cook and when she got remarried, she ended up falling in love with a guy who didn't make that much money but does all the cooking and the cleaning because he really likes to.

When I have a boyfriend eventually move in, I don't want to have to clean up after another person and feed another person...if that was the case, I'd have a child. What I want and I'm in agreement with the other people here, is someone that will be a partner.

I hate to cook but I love to bake...I hate dishes and I tend to be a whirlwind through a room but hey, I happen to be successful enough to pay a housekeeper and I don't mind laundry. My last relationship was with a man who loved to pick up after me--he was always doing stuff to lighten my workload, knowing how crazy my days get. Someone to walk the dogs in the morning when I have to run somewhere.

You know...doing the type of stuff that makes you realize that someone cares about it and isn't just trying to get laid. Someone that will be, again, a great life partner. Not someone who expects dinner on the table at 6pm or thinks dinner is about bringing it home from Subway. Eck.
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Old 05-23-2008, 11:04 AM
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They probably want to make sure you're self-sufficient and not looking for a new mommy. I'll bet a fair number of guys would like to be reasonably certain that the women they date are capable of earning a living on their own if necessary.

Addressed to a guy, "do you cook" could also be a less scary way of asking "if we were someday to marry and have children, would you change your share of diapers? Or is the whole domestic shebang going to land squarely on me? 'Cos I wasn't planning to give up my career forever, sparky."

The "do you cook" thing is superfluous if you visit where he lives--then there is no need to ask.

Trashy apartment == deal breaker. Not only does he want you to cook (or order the pizza/takeout), but you need to figure your way both the Hoover you push around and the other kind.



Here's a little secret from a guy who dated women and also has a shoulder to cry on for girls who are dating: a lot of these requirements can be waived.

Girls change their minds as often as they chance shoes.

If you're really hawt, they won't care if you can't cook. If she's attracted enough that she wants you... a lot of your other personal flaws will get overlooked and she'll take the damaged goods because they're a "steal".
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If you're really hawt, they won't care if you can't cook. If she's attracted enough that she wants you... a lot of your other personal flaws will get overlooked and she'll take the damaged goods because they're a "steal".
Ain't THAT the truth!
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Lol, that's funny. A guy getting offended about being asked whether or not he can cook. Women have been putting up with that bullcrap for centuries.
You can't cook, can you?
It's okay, some woman out there will still love you. I'm sure there's lots of them.
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I never understand why some guys don't know how to cook. It is a basic freaking survival skill. Cooking isn't hard at all. You don't have to cook exotic stuff all of the time to be a good cook. If you know how to grill properly you can make a bunch of food that tastes good.

My roommates and I are pretty good at cooking. In fact, I don't know of a single female our age who cooks better than we do at our house. They are always impressed when they come to an all guys house and have one of the best meals they have had in months.
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There is another angle about cooking all men should consider.

You know that no one spit in your food.
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Lol, that's funny. A guy getting offended about being asked whether or not he can cook. Women have been putting up with that bullcrap for centuries.
You can't cook, can you?
It's okay, some woman out there will still love you. I'm sure there's lots of them.
No kidding, right? I've also been asked about my household tidiness and been admired for my "child-bearing hips".
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Does it say anything negative about me that I find this thread highly arousing?
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Does it say anything negative about me that I find this thread highly arousing?
Well, if you are aroused by a tidy home, then you would find my home to be flaccid penis-inducing.
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In all honesty, when I'm with a guy and I ask if he cooks or not, what comes to mind is us staying in on a Saturday and cooking together, not diapers ... though I suppose that could be the end result of such an evening.
I though that at your age they call them "Depends".
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