"I'll say good-bye to love -
Noone ever cared if I should live or die -
Time and time again the chance for love just passed me by -
So all I know of love is how to live without it ..."
-The Carpenters

The sad song by the Carpenters is so true for many of us. If you can relate to this, how do you deal with it? How do you cope with loneliness and disappointment? Do you feel embittered by not finding your 'true love' or are you serene and accept the situation without hardly ever giving it a thought?

I really would like to hear from people who searched for a romantic relationship, but to no avail. If you consciously want no attachments and love being alone, that might be another thread. How do we adapt to singlehood? Have you given up all hope for finding Mr/Ms Right?

I would love to read your comments and opinions!

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"Do I contradict myself? Very well then, I contradict myself. I am large, I contain multitudes." -- Walt Whitman, Leaves Of Grass

Don't give up hope, but certainly find something else to occupy your time and/or heart. I had figured that I'd be single for life until I met my husband, when I wasn't looking.

My mother in law has a far more inspirational story. Her husband (my husband's father) had left her and his sons to shack up with his mistress when my husband and his brother were 3 and 2 years old. She raised the boys alone, and concentrated on her kids and work. She'd casually dated over the years, but that's it. Two years ago, at age 58, an old college boyfriend contacted her, and everything blossomed. Each are 60 now and getting married this summer. They'll walk down the aisle to Etta James' "At Last".

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this is an interesting topic. in my 20s, i longed for a romantic relationship. now, in my mid-30s, i am content to be single. i don't feel lonely, as i have several very close friends which are extremely satisfying relationships. i do, however, worry that should i meet someone in which to spend my life with, that i've already become too set in my ways, having lived on my own for the past 15+ years.

"alone" does not have to mean lonely. "single" doesn't have to mean alone, either.

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Warpig you need some loving
Even pigs need love...........

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Is official am off the market. Am engaged to Dave

I have had many similar thoughts going through my mind like that.

I am a 41-year old male. For the last five years, and it is my own fault, I have been in love with a certain girl. We became stuck in that "best-friends" zone, but I always had hope that we would end up together. She is 13 years younger than me. I felt like we were really getting closer in recent months, then out of the blue, she told me she had a boyfriend for the past month, and was basically hiding it from me because she knew how upset I would be.

Anyway, I still love her. While "chasing" her for five years, I never even dated another girl. I couldn't even thinki of being with anyone else as I still think of ending up with her. I am very shy and I guess have trouble meeting or talking to other girls. I don't have many friends and a very small family, as really, my mom is just alive.

I have this "fear" of being alone, and it really has hit me in recent weeks. I still would like kids, and I know at 41, it is becoming harder, as I don't want to be one of those 65-year old dads when their kid is graduating High School.

I'm sure these are just thoughts running through my mind, and I will feel better, but it's still very difficult.

This certain "best friend" - were you having a physical relationship (i.e., sexual) with her? I suspect not. If there was no sex in this relationship, how did you deal with that?

Wouldn't it be better to be seeing someone who is not only a friend, but also providing a sexual outlet for you?

What are you going to do now?

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"Do I contradict myself? Very well then, I contradict myself. I am large, I contain multitudes." -- Walt Whitman, Leaves Of Grass

hope you don't mind the unsolicited advice, but if you ever want to have a romantic relationship with someone else, you'll likely need to sever ties with this girl. that may be the only way for you to move on and be open to meeting other people. if she were really such a good friend to you, she'd recognize how hard it is for you to "just be friends". she should want more for you.

if you really want more for yourself, give yourself a lot of space from her and put up a profile on match.com. good luck to you!

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