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tbdiscovery · #81 (**permalink**) 04-21-2008, 07:55 PM

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Originally Posted by R8CHEL

Don't you think men might be missing out on a good woman by not wanting to date within 5-6 years of their own age? Why does it have to be so one-sided? Also, I don't understand what's wrong with the demeanor of this thread. It's ok to be bummed out about not finding a man close to their age to share their life with...it's doesn't make them bitter old hags, sheesh.

I want to fix my fabulous mother up with someone. She's a widow and older than 50 but very stylish and trim and looks fantastic for her age. Anyone know of a nice older gentleman/widower looking for someone to share an Ensure shake and hot sex?

I'm not putting down the women. I'm just saying that the women are throwing up a brick wall when the men are just questioning rationale.

I think that anyone who only seeks a certain type or age is losing out. You might be content with a specific type, but true happiness may be far away. On that same note, you could be duped 40 times in a row, yet you have to give the next person a fair chance.

I'm very serious about my neighbor. I'll introduce him to your mother, but she better not try hanky panky on my friend.

tenzo · #82 (**permalink**) 04-21-2008, 08:03 PM

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Originally Posted by R8CHEL

I can't believe you dudes are splitting hairs over what Annie_Hall said. You know what she means and you KNOW it's true:

Most men only want to date younger women. Period.

If women are looking for a life mate, they have to date a man at least 10 years their senior. And you have to look fantastic no matter how un-fantastic they look.
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SOmehow I dont think me and my friends are exceptions.
You got a cite for any of those facts?

R8CHEL · #83 (**permalink**) 04-21-2008, 08:08 PM

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Originally Posted by tenzo

SOmehow I dont think me and my friends are exceptions.
You got a cite for any of those facts?

Just take a look around you any night you're out with your wife...by the way, how much younger is she than you?

tenzo · #84 (**permalink**) 04-21-2008, 08:11 PM

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Originally Posted by R8CHEL

Just take a look around you any night you're out with your wife...by the way, how much younger is she than you?

half your claim of ten.
and I dated plenty of women older than me.

But I'm not the cite I was asking for, sweetie

R8CHEL · #85 (**permalink**) 04-21-2008, 08:14 PM

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Originally Posted by tbdiscovery

I'm very serious about my neighbor. I'll introduce him to your mother, but she better not try hanky panky on my friend.

do you have a pic you can send me? And he better not be agoraphobic! The guy she used to date (she met him at church) never wants to leave his house, except to go to church or the home depot, and all they do is watch Dancing With the Stars when she goes over there.

mposter · #86 (**permalink**) 04-21-2008, 08:17 PM

The thread may have wondered off topic but interesting non the less.

I find myself also wondering about a life alone - although it is more by choice. I am sure many find themselves in a similar situation: I am in my early thirties and fresh (two years) from the ending of a marriage that lasted six good years (and two bad ones).

I am finally thinking about a relationship again, and I have dated a variety of women in the last year. To be honest, I really do prefer those women who are similar in age as we, for the most part, have had similar experiences and life lessons. But, and this is only a small sample, everyone I have dated my age is interested in a serious relationship and discussion of moving in, marriage and children happens way too early. I want all of those things - but not so soon. So I do find myself dating younger women - and being frustrated by immaturity. I am sure I will find a balance and I am looking forward to it - no matter what age my partner may be.

R8CHEL · #87 (**permalink**) 04-21-2008, 08:22 PM

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Originally Posted by tenzo

half your claim of ten.
and I dated plenty of women older than me.

But I'm not the cite I was asking for, sweetie

No formal cites...just empirical observation all around me. I bet I could find some to back up my statement, though, if I could be arsed.

tbdiscovery · #88 (**permalink**) 04-21-2008, 09:14 PM

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Originally Posted by mposter

The thread may have wondered off topic but interesting non the less.

I find myself also wondering about a life alone - although it is more by choice. I am sure many find themselves in a similar situation: I am in my early thirties and fresh (two years) from the ending of a marriage that lasted six good years (and two bad ones).

I am finally thinking about a relationship again, and I have dated a variety of women in the last year. To be honest, I really do prefer those women who are similar in age as we, for the most part, have had similar experiences and life lessons. But, and this is only a small sample, everyone I have dated my age is interested in a serious relationship and discussion of moving in, marriage and children happens way too early. I want all of those things - but not so soon. So I do find myself dating younger women - and being frustrated by immaturity. I am sure I will find a balance and I am looking forward to it - no matter what age my partner may be.

Great post. Thank you for sharing and proving that real men are out there if the guard is down.

tbdiscovery · #89 (**permalink**) 04-21-2008, 09:16 PM

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Originally Posted by R8CHEL

do you have a pic you can send me? And he better not be agoraphobic! The guy she used to date (she met him at church) never wants to leave his house, except to go to church or the home depot, and all they do is watch Dancing With the Stars when she goes over there.

I will definitely try. This guy is awesome. I'll PM you in a few.

tenzo · #90 (**permalink**) 04-21-2008, 09:57 PM

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Originally Posted by R8CHEL

if I could be arsed.

No bother, you have done a fine job already