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tbdiscovery · #71 (**permalink**) 04-20-2008, 10:16 PM

For you to be concerned with whom your suitors are foregoing in order to pursue you implies that you may fear ending up in the position of the single older woman. You really won't know the man's true interests until you get to know him. It could be that he was simply awestruck by aesthetics, prose or even memory. Age isn't the only factor in the courtship hunt.

tenzo · #72 (**permalink**) 04-21-2008, 01:51 PM

someone sounds bitter

Phillycatlady · #73 (**permalink**) 04-21-2008, 02:48 PM

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Originally Posted by OldMama

Thank you, Annie Hall. You're right, that's what is offensive. And unkind. And, frankly, stupid. Those of us over 50 are not dead, just over 50. Some of us have endured divorce, some of us have nursed a husband through a terminal illness. We have brains, empathy, and our own money. We have a lot to offer but many men our age (or older) will not consider a woman over 50. Their loss.

And if George Clooney asked me out, I'd go. Even if my husband were still around. Come on, it's George.

Trouble is, most 60+ men aren't even close to George Clooney!

I think the trend of older men chasing much younger women has gotten worse since the invention of ED drugs!

R8CHEL · #74 (**permalink**) 04-21-2008, 07:21 PM

I can't believe you dudes are splitting hairs over what Annie_Hall said. You know what she means and you KNOW it's true:

Most men only want to date younger women. Period.

If women are looking for a life mate, they have to date a man at least 10 years their senior. And you have to look fantastic no matter how un-fantastic they look.

Anyone ever see this show?
http://www.bravotv.com/Millionaire_M...on/1/index.php

It's about millionaires looking for wife-material. This woman gathers up about 10-20 gorgeous women of various ages, education, personalities...and guess what? The 40/50 something men who *claim* they want a smart, educated, beautiful woman, closer to their age, pick the 25 year old "actress/model" who is dumber than a bag of hammers...happens in every episode, haha.

Tyrus · #75 (**permalink**) 04-21-2008, 07:23 PM

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Originally Posted by R8CHEL

I can't believe you dudes are splitting hairs over what Annie_Hall said. You know what she means and you KNOW it's true:

Most men only want to date younger women. Period.

If women are looking for a life mate, they have to date a man at least 10 years their senior. And you have to look fantastic no matter how un-fantastic they look.

Anyone ever see this show?
http://www.bravotv.com/Millionaire_M...on/1/index.php

It's about millionaires looking for wife-material. This woman gathers up about 10-20 gorgeous women of various ages, education, personalities...and guess what? The 40/50 something men who *claim* they want a smart, educated, beautiful woman, closer to their age, pick the 25 year old "actress/model" who is dumber than a bag of hammers.

Lol! I love that show and BTW, the scenario that you just mentioned is so true.

tbdiscovery · #76 (**permalink**) 04-21-2008, 07:27 PM

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Originally Posted by R8CHEL

Most men...

This is what we are talking about. Not ALL men. And, we simply wondered why it is offensive. We never said she should jump in the sack with grandpa.

You can't blame the next guy for your prior experiences, or else you are viewed as a scornful bore. Maybe the appeal of the younger woman also has to do with outlook just as much as appearance. Either way, being hateful is not a productive counter approach.

R8CHEL · #77 (**permalink**) 04-21-2008, 07:33 PM

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Originally Posted by tbdiscovery

This is what we are talking about. Not ALL men. And, we simply wondered why it is offensive. We never said she should jump in the sack with grandpa.

You can't blame the next guy for your prior experiences, or else you are viewed as a scornful bore. Maybe the appeal of the younger woman also has to do with outlook just as much as appearance. Either way, being hateful is not a productive counter approach.

That's all fine and dandy...but you're trying to hide the fact that most men are superficial peter-pans, wanting "model/actress" types, with fancy rhetoric.

Also, the only time when most men DON'T want a younger woman is when they're really young and looking for a MILF to teach them how to keep their erection longer than 5 minutes. hahahaha.

tbdiscovery · #78 (**permalink**) 04-21-2008, 07:38 PM

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Originally Posted by R8CHEL

That's all fine and dandy...but you're trying to hide the fact that most men are superficial peter-pans, wanting "model/actress" types with fancy rhetoric.

Also, the only time when most men DON'T want a younger woman is when they're really young and looking for a MILF to teach them how to keep their erection longer than 5 minutes. hahahaha.

Whether this is true or not STILL puts women in the position of passing up on a good guy just because of scorn. And from the demeanor of this thread, the women are sadly losing out.

The older men that I know aren't looking for a young hussy. As a matter of fact, my next door neighbor is a really sweet guy casually looking for a woman his age (early- to mid-50s).

I can make the connections and we'll get a happy ending. Well, not that kind. But, if any woman in that age range wishes to see, then let's make some moves.

phillyaggie · #79 (**permalink**) 04-21-2008, 07:45 PM

this thread surely morphed into something else.

R8CHEL · #80 (**permalink**) 04-21-2008, 07:48 PM

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Originally Posted by tbdiscovery

Whether this is true or not STILL puts women in the position of passing up on a good guy just because of scorn. And from the demeanor of this thread, the women are sadly losing out.

Don't you think men might be missing out on a good woman by not wanting to date within 5-6 years of their own age? Why does it have to be so one-sided? Also, I don't understand what's wrong with the demeanor of this thread. It's ok to be bummed out about not finding a man close to their age to share their life with...it's doesn't make them bitter old hags, sheesh.

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Originally Posted by tbdiscovery

I can make the connections and we'll get a happy ending. Well, not that kind. But, if any woman in that age range wishes to see, then let's make some moves.

I want to fix my fabulous mother up with someone. She's a widow and older than 50 but very stylish and trim and looks fantastic for her age. Anyone know of a nice older gentleman/widower looking for someone to share an Ensure shake and hot sex?