i think you misunderstood what i meant. the majority of men i've met in their mid-forties, who claim to WANT to be married (hence, meeting them on dating websites) often have reasons for being single that does not include just not having met the right person yet.

look, i'm 34 and by my own admission i think my single-ness has less to do with meeting the right guy and more to do with whatever issues i have within myself. i believe that to be true of many single people.

i am really wary of anyone who says "please, no baggage." if you live an interesting life, sh!t happens. i'm not going to rule anyone out simply because they've had stuff happen in their life. it's not what's happened to them -- it's how they handle it that's really important.

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well tenzo, since i've never met you, i obviously wasn't talking about you, so i don't know why you would take my opinion and my experiences personally.

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If that's how most women in their 20s think, no wonder I'm not getting many dates on match.com. I don't have a six-pack abs but I'm also not totally fat and ugly either. What I am is, by this standard, much mature for my age. I really look for an emotional and intellectual match, and certainly spiritual match (because I'm not religious and many women in texas want a church-goer...ugh!). At the same time, I also want someone who looks lovely and at least takes a little care of how they look. I don't think that's shallow of me.

And yes, I'm now working out on a semi regular basis and hope to be in better shape myself!

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Is it ghey that I love this song so much?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gl_Wc6Nm8lc

I guess you could say I'm not as jaded about "stuff" such as enduring love yet...

I'm not Mr. GQ, but I can honestly say that you are a very nice guy. Unless you want in on the Mormon ladies, you are going to get burnt by the city girls. They need aggression sans manipulation. Well, some like to be manipulated, but you don't want those types. Pretend to know what is best for her. If the plan fails, tell her that she'll do better next time. Keep the ladies thinking, and, most importantly, no matter how deep the relationship is, keep your individuality.

People pay for this. I'll be signing books in the VIP lounge of the nudie bar.

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--Melissa Lane, The Guardian; obituary for philosopher of science Peter Lipton.

Farewell Eddy Arnold...Make the World Go Away...

MAGIC THEATER
ENTRANCE NOT FOR EVERYBODY
FOR MADMEN ONLY!

Thank you.
I like his thoughts too, I can really relate!

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Congrats Phils 2008 World Champs!

lol, I was just being silly well part of it....
You don't sound shallow to me, great start at least you have a clear idea of what you want!!

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I was responding about men in their 40's not being married and dating. I put the reference in a quote.

I wasn't specificaly talking about just men you have dated.

I also was wondering why you felt being asked out by an older man was offensive. I was not asking if you would be offended in me asking you out. To make it clearer.

You are a 30 something female who is single and looking for men.
Yet, when someone significantly older asks you out you are offended.
I was just wondering why.

I've always considered it a compliment when someone hits on me no matter what the age or even sex.
They don't know my orientation. But that they would go out of their way to indicate they are attracted or interested to me seems rather kind. To pre-judge someone and be offended, seems rather, well, unkind.

So how offended would you be if this guy tried to buy you a drink?

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i stated that men in their 50's/60's asking me out was creepy, given i'm 34. actually, i specifically said that it's men who are my dad's age who hit on me really creeps me out. my dad has a quite a few years on george clooney

i can only speak to the nature of my own experiences.

you mention my attitude is unkind. what's truly unkind is men who won't give women their own age a chance. i have a single female friend who is 64. she's very attractive, smart, funny and kind. when i looked on jdate for her, all the men who were close to her age indicated they were only interested in women who were roughly 35-50. THAT is insulting.

i find it interesting that the only people really trying to challenge me on this are men.

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Thank you, Annie Hall. You're right, that's what is offensive. And unkind. And, frankly, stupid. Those of us over 50 are not dead, just over 50. Some of us have endured divorce, some of us have nursed a husband through a terminal illness. We have brains, empathy, and our own money. We have a lot to offer but many men our age (or older) will not consider a woman over 50. Their loss.

And if George Clooney asked me out, I'd go. Even if my husband were still around. Come on, it's George.

You didn't indicate that you were insulted when women hit on you, just men

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