This one always used to bother me, since it implies that: (a) everyone wants to get married and (b) guys who haven't by their mid-30s must possess some sort of character flaw instead of just not having met Ms. Right yet.

When I was 33, I briefly dated a woman who was maybe five years younger than me. On our second date, she asked, "So how come you never got married?" I think it was the use of past tense more than anything else that bugged me.

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Well, at least I know now who the men my age are asking out...

Just as I suspected!

I have to LOL here....as I am 39 so 40, 42, etc is not "older" to me anymore!

Actually, I did date a guy who was 40 when I was 25. It didn't work out, but not because of the age difference. I've never really had a problem with dating older but I do have my limits. I wouldn't date a 70 or 80 year old, for instance! That would be like dating Grandpa!

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Well I don't think that at all. I would just think that "he just did not meet the right one". I am in the same boat- I am 39, never married. Why? Because I never met the right one. Had I married one of the guys I have dated in the past, I am sure I would have been a divorce statistic by now.

I think generally I would prefer to date a never-married guy. A lot of divorced guys have " baggage" and it also becomes apparent as to WHY they are divorced...

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Sadly, there is a common mentality that those who are 30+ (without college as an excuse, some consider 25+) with no spouse or children are off their rocker or just odd. Silly cultural norms. I like KENfmt's thoughts on children.

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As one who has been there, I'm fairly confident in saying that if it is meant to be, you'll just know that being a parent is what you should do at that point in your life and that you'll be able to handle it.

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Why?


Why? I was 41 before I asked someone to marry me.
Oh
Right
Bad example

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Yeah, a lot of people still actually believe that if you are 30plus, single and childless you are either off your rocker, odd or gay, lol.

I didn't see KENfmt's thoughts, now I am interested.

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You have to parse through some of the thread:

http://www.phillyblog.com/philly/par...ou-have-2.html

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Man when I was in my 20s I was unstable, retarded and crazy. At least I had my sweet, tight, butt