hey rpost, so you're in a long distance-ish relationship? i was in one of those, with a gal in philly. which partly explains my love for philly. you really have to be lucky for those things to last, bro. sorry to tell you that. I've seen them work as well. It really takes a strong commitment from both to make it work. If she's not even said "i love you" to you until now, perhaps she's in it for something else? I don't know. As for moving, if she wants to do Drexel nursing program, of course she should move, not you. Either way, it's not a given that the relationship will work out even if you're both in the same city, but at least it'll move quickly to a decisive thing...one way or another. You or she should only move if they'll like it in one city or another...certainly don't move because of the other, because then it can just build up resentment and things start to fall apart.

anyways, just some thoughts. good luck to you! i'm 30 and have been single for a few years now; dated a few women in between but there's just no chemistry. the one in philly was a good chemistry but the distance came in the way and i couldn't move there quickly enough so that was that.

but, i've got way too many things going in life to not feel confident that i'll be able to find a gal i like and who'll like me for all the right reasons. i'm confident that way.

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I guess you could say I'm not as jaded about "stuff" such as enduring love yet...

I never understood the irrational fear of doing stuff alone. I know girls who will literally wait outside for their friends - they won't even walk in a place alone, much less dine or eat alone.

I go to bars alone sometimes, but to be honest, the only 3 places I do this are places I know everyone when I walk in the door, so maybe that doesn't count. On days off, I'll stroll down to 10 Stone w/ the sports section for lunch and sit at the bar... have been for years. Used to do the same thing at another establishment, but I nailed the waitress who'd always wait on me, so rolling alone can turn out good sometimes. Of course she ended up hating me b/c I didn't call her and now I feel awkward going to that place, but what can ya do. She was young and stupid anyhow.

I will admit though - I like doing that stuff w/ a companion moreso than alone. I really don't want to go back to doing stuff like 5K's and morning runs, eating out, museums etc by myself all the time.

I have few words of advice when dealing with women who like to test men.

"The man who passes the test is the man who won't be tested in the first place."

Having said this...as you get older you become more self-actualized and you're amazed at the BS you put up with when you were younger....

I'm guessing they don't want to be bothered by people like me. When I'm on business in a new city I will sit next to a woman eating alone and strike up a conversation. More often than not we end up eating together.

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Peace Out, Philly!

And keep in mind that they are still a sausage party. They sound like some of the douchey 30-something guys that were in my shore house a few years back. They went out in their little pack alone, stood in their little pack picking everyone apart, and came home alone. And they were average all around. And it was sausage party every night. (Except once, one of the guys brought home some 22 yo teenybopper still learning her limits, cuz she vomited on him and the bed. We laughed and laughed)

Anyhoo: rpost--
Aren't you the same guy that was just scheduling out the next 20 yrs of his life with this chick? Remember what I said about keeping your pimp hand strong. I'm not saying you have to be out tomcattin', but you're still a young'un. Don't wrap everything up in a lukewarm relationship.

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I'm female. I don't get that either. I think, primarily, for me I was practically an only
child siince my single only sibling is several years older than me. Hence I'm used
to being alone and have been essentially alone since early childhood.

I do hang with people sometimes but I don't like making small talk and chit-chat
in general. That's stuff is just BS, in my opinion.

I'm too serious for most people so everyone(me, them) is better off leaving ourselves
alone.

I don't care if people think I'm weird. It's THEIR problem. I'm happy. Content.
And my life is just fine.

I like it when people can admit they're weird. Honestly, I think everyone is a little weird. Those who aren't, scare me.

Yeah, that's quite a twist from how she was going to work as a nurse and help put you through med school and have kids by a certain age, yada yada yada. I realize that I'm just a hairdresser, but if you aren't looking forward to her visits, then it's time to reexamine your relationship.

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Put him away!

Funny, I don't remember typing that...

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