Much of what everybody is on their high horses about is biological programming. Men instinctively look for young vigorous partners because they have they highest likelihood of bearing viable offspring. Obviously youth and beauty are outward signs of good health, and this was especially the case in prehistoric times. Women instinctively look more for dependable providers and protectors because they are more likely to protect the offspring she just carried for 9 months. The percentage of women who are physically attractive is higher than the percentage of men precisely because it is more important to the propagation of the species that women be attractive physically, hence natural selection has steered things in that direction. Keep in mind, survival of the species was the biggest struggle for most of the time humans have been on earth. Civilization is a recent phenomenon. Men placing a premium on physical beauty (health) and women looking for guys with power and money seem shallow now and I'm not saying we shouldn't strive to get past these things at times, but they have an awfully strong basis in biology.

Right on!

so many people on a thread who have called me so many inane solitary names, yet they wish to define love through scientific, histionic, and mathmatical points of view. These very synopsis are the reason why the divorce rate is at just over 50%.

Love is nothing more than an unbelievable fortitude that transcends business, propriety, sanctuary, or any other perceived necessity within our so called modern world.

it is equally hilarious how people wish to cite our modern world, yet relegate their philosophies to cavemen like antics such as the provider(male) and the powerseekers(women). Settling for these two esoteric laws is surely suited for a matimonial demise.

To the op,
things will look up. When you least expect it, someone will make you hot, nervous, and a bumbling fool. You'll do anything to be with then once more. They may not beyour final devulgance, but they will be the essence towards an intangible called love- been in it for about 9 years myself, and anything else is secondary.

Thankyou for a heart-felt post.

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Peter Cetera:
Sometimes I just forget
Say things I might regret
It breaks my heart to see you crying

Then you shouldn't have a problem. I know quite a few females that are "sweet and intelligent" looking for LTRs that I can fix you up with.

What I mean is, if you were dating a woman and she was really into you (and you were really into her), and she wanted a long term relationship and talked about marriage and kids to you -- chances are, you'd probably string her along or break up with her because you weren't ready to commit to marriage, family, etc. 27 year old men are usually not ready for that. That's why women usually end up with men 10 years their senior.

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fell8tio
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Listen to yourself, man. You are not inerested in anyone else's interest-your only interested in your well travelled high prestige self that can impress others-which is why you will find a bubbly idiot rather than someone who may be more intelligent although less versed. You are a sham of yourself by your own introspection. Quit looking at what you have to offer and listen to the ladies who may have something to offer that you obviously don't. Remember, the lady who merely read Sully Prudhomme 50 times is better than the businessman who read 100 parisian travel maps in a lobby while waiting to speak at a seminar. Of course you'll retort, but your primary ignorance has already spoken volumes by your initial self-flattering adjunct.

Whizkid, quit trying to impress internet personalities with equivalent numerical acronyms-if you are so inclined, I have some for you:

1-900-hot-lady
1-900-@ss-hard
etc.

They come more expensive than r8chel, but in the end you'll have an out of the country mail order houswife who will kill you for your weekly paycheck and you'll have something to brag about in the end. Or, you could go work for the service and get an employee discount. The place that owns a very vast majority of 1800, 1888, and 1900 acronyms has their office above Jones on 7th and chestnut, so you should really fill out an application to get your social scene goin' while you make some bucks.

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Peter Cetera:
Sometimes I just forget
Say things I might regret
It breaks my heart to see you crying

seriously, if you weren't already married alesis, i would give you my number. you ROCK

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Freudian Slips: when you say one thing but mean your mother

You better slow down girl....I think Alesis is #3 on your Phillyblog list!

lol ... i know you have a gf, but i'd be happy to put you on the list too

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Freudian Slips: when you say one thing but mean your mother

You assume so much nonsense from my post that is not true. You have no idea about my background and how hard I've worked to get where I am. BTW, I'm not in business, I make very little money, and will continue to make very little money for at least another decade or so.

What I am interested in is someone who is :

1) A good, kind-hearted human being. I put a lot of time and effort into helping others with volunteer work.

2) Someone who is intelligent and works to improve themselves. I used to be overweight myself. I was obese all through my teenage years. So what did I do? I lost a lot of weight by diet and exercize and have kept it off for many years. I'm a high school dropout from a poor family. I went back to college a few years later.

So yeah, maybe I am looking for someone who's a little bit accomplished. It just shows hard work on their part. Being intelligent isn't just enough in this world and I'm greatly interested in working women. Perhaps I am looking for someone interested in my accomplishments, but I'm interested in theirs as well. I want someone who wants to travel with me and speaks at their own seminars (or something similar!).

Sounds good. Send me a PM and we can talk about it.

You again suppose so much that is entirely not true. I was engaged once a few years ago and the woman left ME. I was in a great LTR recently and wanted that to conclude in marriage and some really bad crap happened that was out of our control.

I ask you to listen to yourself. I say I'm interested in someone kind and intelligent. I have dated numerous girls in the past that other guys have downright laughed at. Instead, you completely disbelieve me and instead send love to someone who arrogantly flames the crap out of me.

Everyone my age who is a total ******* gets laid frequently. Kudos to you Alesis, for showing how that works. Unfortunately, I can't stand to be around those types of people, so I guess I'm a bit of a loner...

From possibly the worst hostel I've ever stayed in...
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Ok, I'm an idiot. What is LTR potential? Duh---is it Long Term Relationship?

BTW--This thread has taken a strange turn. Why do people care what people are into or not into, as long as they aren't rude about it. I once approached a guy in a bar and right after I said, "Hello" he blurted out, "I only like skinny blondes with big ****, sorry honey." I said, "Honestly...thank you so much for letting me know." Then he and his jerkwad friends had a laugh. I guess they didn't do well, or thought they'd settle for 1 out of 3 of their requirements, because an hour later, they were approaching me and my friends. My best friend then demonstrated some of the many positions gay men can enjoy with one another and reminded them that it's ok to explore with fiends...especially while drinking.

Seriously though, I don't want anything to do with a guy who wants me to be something I'm not. I just don't think that it's necessary to be a jerk about it.

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