My wife and I have been together for 6 years and married for two of them. Most of our friends are unmarried so most of my social life is the same as it was before I was married (which i'm happy for as i still enjoy doing those things).

Except now i wear a ring most of the time. I don't when i'm on a job site or when i'm playing soccer. So at this point it's clear that the ring gets a lot of attention.

People i'm just meeting who aren't married (guys and girls) definitely treat me a lot differently in social situations. I really wasn't prepared for it at all. Even interactions I have with other married people are a lot less open and friendly as i guess no one wants to give you the wrong impression. It's just a weird, uptight scene.

Just wait till you guys are married 33 years. The women are all over you like a cheap suit.

My dashing looks dont help none either.

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Interesting. I've been married for 8 1/2 years and we were together for a little over 2 years before that. Our friends are a mix of married, married w/ kids, and singles. Individually, we both have a number of close friends of both genders and I haven't felt that the social scene has been uptight. Maybe everybody has had longer to get used to the idea of marriage etc.

And, Adam is right about Tenzo and his wife...my impression is that he keeps wondering how the heck he got her to agree to marry him!

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There once was a beautiful woman
Who married a psychologist.
But all he would do is talk about it.
So she got divorced and married a gynecologist
But all he would do is look at it
So she got divorced and married a gourmet chef
And lived happily ever after.

Have I mentioned that I graduated from Le Cordon Bleu?


Truthfully? I have no damn idea how I got so lucky.
Maybe that is why I tend to announce that I am married within the first 3 minutes of a conversation with any woman.


I will offer a hint to all you single guys
I'm a geek, but I never had trouble getting a girlfriend.
1) Learn to dance. I can't tell you the number of women that I have gotten simply by asking them to dance. Don't talk the them, just ask them to dance. At the end of the dance say; "thank you" and escourt her back to her friends.
2) Learn to cook. When you tell someone you are a chef you are instantly popular. I learned to cook when I lost my job. SO I had no job, no money, but woman always asked me out and quite often introduced me to their friends.
3) Be inept at something. There is a little mothering in every girl. I got married at 42 and never had to do my laundry.
4) Help her with something that is no fun. It lets her know you will take care of her.

When my wife and I were initially dating she was dating two guys. She couldn't decide on which one. So she invited both of us to a Christmas party. I made sure I cooked something outstanding (duck empanadas with black beans in filo dough). I got their early to help her set up (under the premise that I needed to use her oven). Then, (HERE IS THE KICKER) after the party I stayed late and helped her clean up.

I never knew who the other guy at the party was. I really don't want to know. But when everyone was gone and it was just me and her doing the dishes, I had no doubt she picked me.

Manipulative. I don't think so. I let her know I would take care of her.
And I have been ever since.

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I can not speak for men in good marriages looking for something extra.

If it's such a "good marriage" why are they looking for "something extra". Your marriage is in trouble if you feel the need to look outside it for something extra.

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Originally Posted by tenzo And the female idea that "all the good ones are either taken or gay"

I totally agree with Tenzo about this example of female chauvinism. This is a simplistic way for single women to avoid doing some necessary self-criticism. But why worry about single women that think this way, they must either be bad ones or lesbians, right?

However Tenzo, it's much nicer to "meet" someone than "meat" them unless you dig hanging out in meat/meet markets.

I also agree with young men learning to dance. For those under 40 the odds are against you in most social situations. On the dance floor you'll find things more in your favor if you can dance. If you want a woman to dance with you learn how to look good on the dance floor, but if you want her to love you learn how to make her look good on the dance floor.

It is ironic that the older men get the better the odds, but often
less you seem to care about those odds. That said, some of us do get married after the age of 36 despite popular stereotypes.

People tend to grow within a serious relationship, becoming more confident and adept at understanding the opposite sex. I've witnessed this first hand on more than one occasion.

It really makes perfect sense, if you give it a little thought.

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I think that some people look for a little "strange" even if they are in a good marriage due to boredom. Sometimes people are insecure and need some sort of weird personal validation and can't say no when an opportunity comes up.

...or so I hear.

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I got plenty of that when dating.
Lets see, there was Ellen, the 'lithium bandit"
another girl who after dating 4 weeks said it was either her or my friends (easy decision there).
The girl who forwarded her mail to my place for convienance.
The one who cried in a corner after intimacy.
The 35 year old girl who showed up at my door with a suitcase because she was running away from home.

You want strange?
Date

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