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Old 01-20-2008, 03:36 PM
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As I am in an estranged marriage and have been dating someone for 9 months(and that may be ending soon!), I can only tell you that if I start a conversation with a woman, I believe she should know what my situation is. But, that only happens if some of my flirtations have been accepted.

I can not speak for men in good marriages looking for something extra. Just remember, married does not equate to low life cheaters in every single case.


To answer your question, you are not rude to ask whatsoever.
If she is reading this it may be ending VERY soon.
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Old 01-20-2008, 04:00 PM
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Is your wife reading this?

Joel
No, but I've only been married 4 years (ok, 3 years 11 months)
Things can change.

But so far they have changed toward the better.

On my wedding day I flirted with a girl serving Gelato (now you know she is not reading this) but as time goes by I'm finding myself more in love, not less.

I'm not saying there isn't room for improvement (geeez, she said; "I do" and has not shut up since) but I have no interest in finding anyone else.

I never could imagine not wanting half the girls I met. (And this was one of the reasons I put off marriage so long. I mean isnt it supposed to be true love?) I was never with a girl that I loved so much I lost interest in other girls. Even my wife (see Gelato girl above). But after being married this long, I just have no interest in anyone else.

I have no interest in cheating.

I still have my fantasies though. Back when we first got here we stayed in a hotel. In the same hotel the performers from Cirque du Solie were staying. One of the girl gymnasts offered to use massage oils on my wife. She said they were going to Canada and customs would not let the oils through the border.

I sure would have like to be involved in that!
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Old 01-20-2008, 04:38 PM
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No, but I've only been married 4 years (ok, 3 years 11 months)
Things can change.

But so far they have changed toward the better.

On my wedding day I flirted with a girl serving Gelato (now you know she is not reading this) but as time goes by I'm finding myself more in love, not less.

I'm not saying there isn't room for improvement (geeez, she said; "I do" and has not shut up since) but I have no interest in finding anyone else.

I never could imagine not wanting half the girls I met. (And this was one of the reasons I put off marriage so long. I mean isnt it supposed to be true love?) I was never with a girl that I loved so much I lost interest in other girls. Even my wife (see Gelato girl above). But after being married this long, I just have no interest in anyone else.

I have no interest in cheating.

I still have my fantasies though. Back when we first got here we stayed in a hotel. In the same hotel the performers from Cirque du Solie were staying. One of the girl gymnasts offered to use massage oils on my wife. She said they were going to Canada and customs would not let the oils through the border.

I sure would have like to be involved in that!
All too funny.

But don't let him kid you. If you see him around her, you see he dotes on her and not just because he he is uninterested in other women.

Now her, that may be a different story ...
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If she is reading this it may be ending VERY soon.

We spent time together last night. Working on the problem. It was a good night.

She seems to find it easier to tolerate me when she is in a drunken tizzy.
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I had three consecutive experiences of getting interested in, and asking out, men I'd been checking out who didn't wear wedding rings, acted unattached, and acted interested in me. I found out they were involved/married before anything disastrous happened, but after I'd started to get my hopes up and got disappointed. The behavior seems to me incredibly disrespectful and thoughtless. Is there a new dating rule out there requiring people to ask outright during a first meeting, are you married or involved?
I'd like to mention something, then I'll butt out.

There are married men who do not wear wedding rings for religious reasons.

In Orthodox Judaism, 7th Day Adventism and a few other religious faiths, men are not supposed to wear wedding rings (in SDA, neither sex wears wedding rings.)

This stems partly from beliefs against wearing jewelry (SDA), and partly from the belief that men are not to wear things usually worn by women (Orthodox Judaism.)

So if you see a man without a ring, it does not necessarily mean he is single or trying to cheat. Some of the most moral, committed men I know in our community do not wear rings.

The concept of a man wearing a wedding ring is relatively new, and stems from non-Jewish customs as well as feminism.

When I was growing up I never saw a man with one on, including my father.

More info: http://lifestyle.msn.com/Relationshi...umentid=497901

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Face it girls, you meat a thirty something guy who is nice and one of your first thoughts is; "what is wrong with him that he's not taken"

Which is totally stupid because YOU, the one who is thinking this, is not taken.
Actually, I always thought "I bet he's divorced. I wonder if he has any kids?" I was right every time (being divorced never mattered, I just liked to see if I was right or not).
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This is one advantage the French have over us. If two people want to screw, they really do not care about each other's marital status.
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This is one advantage the French have over us. If two people want to screw, they really do not care about each other's marital status.
French girls are a thousand times more interactive than the bitches here.
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We spent time together last night. Working on the problem. It was a good night.

She seems to find it easier to tolerate me when she is in a drunken tizzy.
I wonder if we dated the same woman ...
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I had three consecutive experiences of getting interested in, and asking out, men I'd been checking out who didn't wear wedding rings, acted unattached, and acted interested in me. I found out they were involved/married before anything disastrous happened, but after I'd started to get my hopes up and got disappointed. The behavior seems to me incredibly disrespectful and thoughtless. Is there a new dating rule out there requiring people to ask outright during a first meeting, are you married or involved?


Even if you ask he can still lie and say no.
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