Poll: Would you consider a long-distance relationship? - Page 2 - PhillyBlog

raider.adam · #11 (**permalink**) 10-12-2007, 01:37 AM

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Originally Posted by phillyaggie

good advice, GMonkey. Thanks!

I do do my own picking. And after some consideration. So then I guess I feel I have to say something about my eventual move there. As it happens, I got contacted by two women from NYC area, wondering if I'd be interested in them. One, I wasn't interested in. The other one made me think why she'd be contacting me while I'm still in Texas. So I asked her. And she said it...her job will move her possibly to Dallas or Denver. So that makes me feel a bit at ease... at least she's not some psycho out there, or something like that. More often than not, though, I'm the one making first contact.

The obvious question is, why search out a long distance relationship? They are tough enough when they arise unexpectedly ... another when you go out and seek it.

MayfairMeat · #12 (**permalink**) 10-12-2007, 02:05 AM

I've done one of these.

They are very, very emotionally draining--especially if you think that person is "THE ONE". It sucks getting seperation anxiety. Sucks even more when you really crave seeing that person and they're not there; and you can't get ahold of them for whatever reason, and that person is on your mind constantly.

And worse, if you relocate and it breaks apart--well, then you have a choice of spending thousands to move back or forging a life of your own in your new place, which is pretty traumatic.

That other person on the other end has to be seriously into you to keep it going. If there is even one inkling that it wouldn't work out or you have any slightest doubt... bail.

raider.adam · #13 (**permalink**) 10-12-2007, 03:58 AM

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Originally Posted by EastChestnut

I've done one of these.

They are very, very emotionally draining--especially if you think that person is "THE ONE". It sucks getting seperation anxiety. Sucks even more when you really crave seeing that person and they're not there; and you can't get ahold of them for whatever reason, and that person is on your mind constantly.

And worse, if you relocate and it breaks apart--well, then you have a choice of spending thousands to move back or forging a life of your own in your new place, which is pretty traumatic.

That other person on the other end has to be seriously into you to keep it going. If there is even one inkling that it wouldn't work out or you have any slightest doubt... bail.

And then you have t wonder who this "Steve" guy is that answered the phone and ...

ms_evelyng · #14 (**permalink**) 10-12-2007, 01:44 PM

Yah...I got one of those, but it does come in handy at times

But in general I think long distance relationships suck big time! Like that old spanish saying "Amor de lejos, Amor de pendejo" which I can badly translate to "love from a distance, love of dumb idiots"

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Originally Posted by GMonkey

Otherwise, he's just the guy bang everytime you're in Arizona, and the dude you spend all your cell minutes on.

ms_evelyng · #15 (**permalink**) 10-12-2007, 02:07 PM

YES I know what you mean!! I left "the one" back in NYC and now I can't fully concentrate with the guys here bc of that f@%#*r! is not out of my life! Is like you move on but then it sucks you back in bc you wish to be together. And worst he's now contemplating on moving here!!

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Originally Posted by EastChestnut

I've done one of these.

They are very, very emotionally draining--especially if you think that person is "THE ONE". It sucks getting seperation anxiety. Sucks even more when you really crave seeing that person and they're not there; and you can't get ahold of them for whatever reason, and that person is on your mind constantly.

And worse, if you relocate and it breaks apart--well, then you have a choice of spending thousands to move back or forging a life of your own in your new place, which is pretty traumatic.

That other person on the other end has to be seriously into you to keep it going. If there is even one inkling that it wouldn't work out or you have any slightest doubt... bail.

phillyaggie · #16 (**permalink**) 10-12-2007, 02:28 PM

The point is, it does work. And would not be a problem if the long-distance thing is for short-term and one will move to be with the other.

But it only works if both really want it to work and aren't going to be tempted for some one-night stands NOR get into the evil pit of jealousy or doubt.

I've seen it work. And of course, I've also seen it (first hand) not work. ANd when it doesn't work, its the sh(t and pretty much exactly how EC describes it.

As for why I'm looking over in your neck of the woods...well, because I can, and because I seem to find more women of my liking (and hopefully vice versa--they like me too, but are skittish to start something long-distance as mentioned previously) there than here (in texas).

From Philly · #17 (**permalink**) 10-13-2007, 07:47 PM

There is so much going against long distance romances. If nothing else, you really don't have a chance to really get to know a person. Long distance friendships YES. Romance NO

joey0 · #18 (**permalink**) 10-15-2007, 01:13 PM

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Originally Posted by phillyaggie

So you liked the topic, eh?

Exactly what the headline says: Would you consider dating someone who is far away? Specially if there is a possibility of it (the distance) being a short-term deal.

I have dated long distance, and Yes, I probably would again. However, it takes a massive amount of dedication and presents huge communication challenges.

Make sure both parties are very serious about it.

From Philly · #19 (**permalink**) 10-15-2007, 02:35 PM

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Originally Posted by joey0

I have dated long distance, and Yes, I probably would again. However, it takes a massive amount of dedication and presents huge communication challenges.

Make sure both parties are very serious about it.

Long distance relationships, opens the door to making cheating easier.

phillyaggie · #20 (**permalink**) 10-17-2007, 02:49 AM

not everyone wants to cheat or is inclined to cheat.

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