On a Sex in the City episode, Carrie said that men are like taxicabs. They can drive around all day picking up women, but until their yellow light is on, they don't want to get married. The next woman they pick up after their light is on is the one they want to marry.

Men, is this true? Do men have yellow lights? Or you do believe in more of fate, compatability, or something else?

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Resident of Fishtown, Moderator of Fish/No. Libs/Kenzo forum, Real Estate Agent-Prudential Fox & Roach

sheesh. Women just don't get it do they? Women dwelve on every little thing a man does trying to find patterns of meaning especially in relationships. Here's a cure for ALL women out there:

Stop thinking too hard on the subject. You won't find any answer and you'll just stress yourself more!

Men are easy (in more ways than one). We have no pattern, no rhyme or reason. We do things when they feel right when we want to. Simple as that. Don't look for a pattern cause there simply is none.

So to answer the question.... No

I have to agree with Link on this. How you can you expect to figure out what we're doing when we don't even know?

As far as the yellow light, I think there does come a time when a guy, consciously or unconsciously, realizes that marriage is now a legitimate option. Doesn't mean that it's now our mission or that we'll only date contenders, just that it's an option.

This theory doesn't really presuppose that any of you know what you want or what you're doing--in fact, it implies the complete opposite--there's no rhyme or reason to when your "light comes on" but when it does, that's the woman you pick. Does that change your response?

Belle and I were discussing this on Saturday night--maybe she can offer something here.

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Resident of Fishtown, Moderator of Fish/No. Libs/Kenzo forum, Real Estate Agent-Prudential Fox & Roach

Yeah, from what my married friends say, that sounds about right. I think a guy just knows...not too many guys that I know of are walking around looking for a wife with a laundry list of requirements that must be met...you just kinda know...like walking into a brick wall. (and woman's intuition gets all the press...)

i'd have to say that there is some truth to that. once the yellow light is on, any woman is fair game. still, it's not necessarily the next woman....there are plenty of women out there that have warning signs that say "do not marry"
still, a good woman can flip the switch to yellow if she is subtle enough. besides, with all them crazy b*tches out there you got to lock up the good one that you get before your back is covered in hair and and you are forced to go to single again meetings to pick up chicks.

Where do you get one of those "do not marry" signs? I can see those being quite a hit with us Sex in the City generation ladies.

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Resident of Fishtown, Moderator of Fish/No. Libs/Kenzo forum, Real Estate Agent-Prudential Fox & Roach

chances are if you live like that yuo already have one.
what sane man would ever want to marry someone who took out equity and spent it on shoes? (taken from a Hal coment earlier.)

oh, and always tellin your man what to do and pressuring him to get married all the time will also qualify you as "do not get married" to all but the spineless. it's kind of funny, the best way to get a man not to marry you is to pressure him to marry you.

Actually, in SITC's defense, it was Carrie who had $40K shoes but not enough money to put down to buy her apartment so she had to borrow it from Charlotte.

I seem to meet a lot of guys whose yellow lights are on. I also don't see the point of pressuring someone to marry you. When I'm ready some day, I'd like to know the other person wanted it as much as me.

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Resident of Fishtown, Moderator of Fish/No. Libs/Kenzo forum, Real Estate Agent-Prudential Fox & Roach

my yellow lights are on, but they are more like the flashing hazzard kind.