I have a lot of single friends who live in and around Philly. One thing that I hear more and more is that it is tougher to meet quality people in the city than it is in the suburbs. I find this hard to believe, but wanted to ask all of you.

For those who are single, how do you rate the dating scene outside of college and where do you go to meet people?

For those who are married, how did you meet your spouse? Where did you get married?

I met my spouse in college when dating was easy and life was a breeze. We were married here in PA and have been happy ever since.

Ah...no. It sucks the same in and out of the city.

Actually, I can't really rate the city's scene because I'm terrible at meeting new people. The fine art of small talk completely eludes me.

That is a common problem John! How about everyone else? Do you share John's feeling?

There seem to be a lot of cool dating programs in philly though. It's just lunch seems like a cool idea because it really is just lunch, there is a definite end time, so there is no pressure if the person you met is not too compatible, it'll only be an hour.

Then there are those speed dating types of things where people meet tons of others in a single night. I think you get like 8 minutes with as many people as you can for an hour or two. You check off the people you liked on your card, and if they checked you off too, the dating service passes on the contact info.

Both of these ideas seem pretty cool due to the fact that there is not a whole lot of pressure.

I find that many of us tend to date suburbanites. Both myself and my roommate are dating them and we live in the city. Okay, I'm actually from the suburbs. Dating out there was just as tough. Really, it's about finding places where people you might be interested in go. Go to clubs if you like dancing and want to get !@*#. I think finding someone to date is like looking for a job, the best and most effective way is to get a referral. MEaning, meet somebody through your friends. In light of this, we should all do our part to bring people from work or elsewhere to social functions with out friends. If this is not possible, bars with people that have a prticular interest work better than "party" bars. say like a monk's or a fergie's. Also, I have had friends who have had success with the internet scene. For me, just realizing that getting rejected isn;t that bad helps I mean, you'll probably never see that person again anyways. Things that don;t seem to work "grabbing your crotch and screaming something lude" I know you may see the guys in teh subway do it but it never seems to work for them.

I have noticed that I tend to get more #'s in the burbs. I don't go to the burbs too often, so it might be a fluke, but I can usually meet a few interesing people a night. In the city, I have a little more trouble. I have definately learned that being denied is not a big deal. The problem is that my tastes are rather narrow. I don't often meet people that interest me. I need to find a new bar. I live in south philly and spend too much time down there. I do get to Nolib and center city often. I don't much care for old city, although sugar moms' kicks ass. I don't know if all of you would consider that old city or not. The last three girl friends I've had were my waitresses at a bar. I guess I just like women who wait on me.:wink:

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Jason
Lynn Swann 06'

"Individualism is absent when other peoples' standards, not reality and reason, are ones primary guide."

I like the "laid-back" atmosphere in NoLibs. I guess it really all depends on what you're looking for. There are some nice women at Wed and Fri nights at the Art museum, plus if they are there you know at least some of their interests already. They have live music, movies, and you can walk around the museum. It's pretty cool really there is also some dating game at Lucy's though I think you need to be a talker for that. Also, if you hav a dog, goingto a dog run is probably a good place to go. If you don;t have a dog, then get a cute puppy and you will talk to more gilrs than you ever dreamed. Of course, you should actually want a dog too. A lot of NoLibs abrs let you bring your animal, nice.

That's why I like NoLibs. I want to go out and not feel like I'm around people who are only out to meet someone. You know, the meat market. That is why I don't like old city and why I don't like Lucy's. Too much pressure. I go out to have fun. If I see someone that interests me, I will approach. In old city, I feel like I have to. Art Museum is cool too.

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Jason
Lynn Swann 06'

"Individualism is absent when other peoples' standards, not reality and reason, are ones primary guide."

I'm doing all the things I normally do, but I'm looking for groups with the same interests.

I enjoy running, so I went to a group run tonight. Surprisingly, I don't sound nearly as bad coming up with a loss for words when you're having problems breathing (stupid cold).

I enjoy rollerblading, so I'm going to give Landskaters a try sometime soon.

There's lots of other options, which is a big reason why I love this city so much, and I'm going to do a whole bunch of them.

Quick side note: I went to Monk's for the first time Sunday night. Pretty cool place, though trying a bunch of their beers will knock you for a loop.

What type of person are you looking for? Are you finding them here in Philly?

For the ladies, how would you describe a Philly Guy and what makes him different?

For the guys, how would you describe a Philly Gal and what makes her different?